Your First Sex Toy: A Beginner’s Guide to Pleasure

Buying your first sex toy can feel exciting… and a little overwhelming. With so many shapes, sizes, and styles on the market, it’s easy to get lost scrolling and wondering: Where do I even start?

At Oh!Moment, we believe pleasure should feel fun, empowering, and stress-free. So, if you’re new to the world of sex toys, here are my top recommendations for the best beginner sex toys for women, body-safe, easy to use, and guaranteed to help you explore more pleasure with confidence.

If you’re dipping your toe in for the first time, a bullet or lay-it-on vibrator is the easiest (and often most satisfying) place to start.

• Perfect for clitoral stimulation (the way most people with vulvas reach orgasm).

• Small, discreet, and non-intimidating, ideal for beginners.

• Doubles as a body massager.

My pick: The soft silicone Pixie vibrator from Oh Collective, perfect for solo sex or adding to partnered play.

Clitoral suction toys have exploded in popularity, and for good reason. They mimic the feeling of oral sex with a gentle “sucking” sensation.

• Great if you want something different from traditional vibration.

• Often leads to quicker, more intense clitoral orgasms.

• Quiet, discreet, and very beginner-friendly.

My pick: The womanizer premium 2 is the best clitoral suction toy on the market with multiple intensity settings, and the best hardware it will be a toy that brings a lifetime of fun!

The DAME Fin 2.0. 

This little powerhouse slips comfortably onto your fingers so you can stay fully connected with yourself or your partner.

Perfect for beginners, Fin is non-intimidating, easy to control, and lets you explore at your own pace. The soft silicone body and adjustable finger loop mean it stays exactly where you want it (no fumbling or slipping mid-play!), giving you confidence in any situation.

Use it during foreplay, penetrative sex, or solo sessions, Fin adds just the right buzz without getting in the way. It’s also waterproof, so the shower, bath, or anywhere wet and wild is fair game.

My Pick: Small enough to fit in your palm. Powerful enough to change your mind about “little toys.” It's a game changer

While not technically a “toy,” lube deserves an honorary mention because it makes solo sex and toy play even better.

• A good-quality water-based lube is safe with silicone toys and super versatile.

• An oil-based lube can be used in water or as a massage oil for sensual play.

• Lube enhances pleasure, reduces friction, and makes exploring new sensations more fun.

My pick: The YES Organics Duo Set, water-based + oil-based lubes in one pack, giving you great value and endless options.